The answer to this question is always an important element in the process of self-healing of mental and emotional complaints. Only if we can read this foundation within ourselves, exactly as we wrote it there ourselves as a child, will it become inclusive and make self-healing possible.
Your foundation carries you, it carries who you think you are. We all need it because it is the base from which our identity can grow. The sense of identity stands with both feet on this foundation, so to speak.
In the case of recurring emotional or mental complaints, there is something curious about this foundation because it does not get trusted by the sense of identity. As if the concrete into which it is poured is of dubious quality and it could get exposed as false at any moment.
To prevent this, our sense of identity makes an unconscious split. On the one hand it is constantly negating its own foundation and on the other hand proving to itself that its foundation is there and has ground under its feet. What does this contradiction mean? What does it mean that evidence is needed to confirm your identity and what does it say that any evidence provided for this always evokes a feeling of dissatisfaction, or a feeling of underlying fear. In which case, why can only a negative emotion prove your foundation? Why do you feel so bad if you think that this foundation can be openly seen by someone else? Is this a cruel joke of life? A design flaw by God?
Buddhism and other Eastern philosophies have a clear message about this form of emotional suffering. In my practice the process of self-healing takes place from a Buddhist approach with a touch of Western psychology. It invites you to discover why you think you need an emotional survival mechanism. What could be more beautiful than to be able to discover that the only thing life requires of you is to live, and not to survive.
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